Marriage


I have decided to include this page as an inspiration I received from the different spiritual communities I have been involved with in the past years.

These communities shaped me, deeply encouraged me, and continue to inspire me in my marriage and relationships today.

Let me count the ways:

I was under God's grace to have found my first community, Lingkod ng Panginoon in Manila after I moved here due to a work assignment in Unilever.  Through Lingkod, I was able to let God mould me to be the woman He intends me to be.

The Servants of the Lord's Vineyard (SOLV) in Don Bosco, Makati has taught me how to deal with steady relationships under Christian principles during my courtship days with my then-boyfriend-now-husband, Gerard.

I was also blessed to discover the Marriage Preparation seminars provided by the Discovery Weekend Foundation in 1997 at a time when my relationship with Gerard turned more serious. 

With our Discovery Weekend Family during Christmas 2012
Here, I learned my first concepts about marriage focusing on communication and dialogues, feelings and the decision to love, and the apostolic and community service in God's plan in our marriage.

In 2004, as my married life matured, my husband and I were led to the Couples for Christ (CFC) community in Greenmeadows and be of service to its outreach arm, Gawad Kalinga.

With our first CFC Household 
With our CFC Household of almost 5 years
When God intended for us to serve more and give time for community life, we answered God's call through the Light of Jesus (LOJ) community in Valle Verde Pasig. 

Since 1995, we have been concurrently attending the Feast or community gathering every Sunday to listen to Bo Sanchez's inspirational talks. 

Now we are able to extend ourselves to help in the spiritual and marriage enrichment of these couples as we head the Couples Missions at the Feast Pasig.

Feast Pasig with Bo Sanchez and Obet Cabrillas
In between attending these Catholic communities, we have had the pleasure and privilege of participating in the many inspiring and relationship-building activities of Victory Church (Every Nation).

With invitations from our couple friends, Bensie and Milona Barraca, Mark and Aileen Bosano, we were introduced to more activities honing and deepening our relationship skills.

Through Victory's family camps, Me and My Dad camps, Marriage Boosters, and inspirational talks from Pastor Joey Bonifacio, we were steadily shaped and formed.

During the Marriage Booster in Victory in 2010

"God uses it to prepare, complete, and thoroughly equip every person for every good work." (2 Timothy 3:17)

I credit all these communities in the knowledge and depth of insight I may have gained on marriage and relationships.

And so this page...

I write this page with the intention of sharing my marriage and relationships: how we went through the trials and victories, failures and triumphs, amidst our faults and successes.

That through it all and underneath it all, I have learned one single truth.


There is a loving God who is at the center of our marriage.

Marriage is not a private affair

It is not a one-to-one relationship. 

It is a three-some: husband, wife, and God.

Marriage has been made sacred by God.

He has designed marriage to be a covenant between two people, to Himself.

As husband and wife, they are both consecrated to one another.

The husband and wife are called to marriage.

To make each other holy.

To a life of submission.

To servanthood.

We are called to model the Christ-Church relationship.

We are called to follow the Ephesians Principle.

"Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.

Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands, as you do to the Lord.

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the Church, and gave Himself up for Her, to make Her holy..." (Ephesians 5:21-33)

I know this is difficult to do. It is a sacrifice.

But when we enter the sacrament of marriage, we are also given the graces.

We have our Lord to call on to, to strengthen us for this task.

We rely on God to keep our marriage strong.

Remember that marriage is not a contract. It does not have an expiry.

We are in this for the long haul, 'till death do us part'.

We are not called to be 'married singles' - each one seeking only our own happiness.

Marriage is sacred. Through God's overflowing graces and mercy, He will grant us victory.

Spending some "couple time" in Paris.

How do you feel about your marriage? Can you commit to live the Ephesians Principle?

What are the things that hinder you to a life of submission and servanthood?

Do you feel that your marriage is a contract or a covenant?


Blogger's Notes: My husband, Gerard, and I are still currently serving in the Discovery Weekend Marriage Preparation seminars. For details and schedules, you may contact Lala Denilla at (632) 426 1271 or (632) 917 665 6181 or email her at discoveryweekend@yahoo.com

We are also serving as Couples Missions Head for the Light of Jesus Feast Pasig. We have care group discussions for couples every week to help couples strengthen their marriages. There is mass and inspirational talk by Preacher Obet Cabrillas every Sunday at the Ballroom of the Valle Verde Country Club at 10am and 1pm. 

Should you have questions or in need of an advice, please leave a note and I will answer as best as I can. I do not claim to be an expert, but I hope that my 14 years of experience in my married life can lay integrity to my claim. You may email me at lenyyusay@yahoo.com should you think it too personal to share in this blog.

Keep Walking!
LENY

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